Articles & Resources - Recipes for Reform by Betsy Eves

Caregiving Has an After

You probably never sat down one day and decided, I am now a caregiver. You may not have realized that caregiving has an after. You became a military spouse first,…

By Betsy Eves January 9, 2026Notes from the Field

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2026: A Year of Alignment

2026 doesn’t feel like a restart. It feels like a continuation... but finally in the right direction. And for many of us, 2026 is shaping up to be a year of…

By Betsy Eves December 28, 2025Notes from the Field

Military Spouse Community Building: Why We’re Creating Our Own Village Now

For a long time, I tried to find real community inside systems that were never built for us. Anyone who has lived this life knows how rare true military spouse…

By Betsy Eves November 19, 2025Recipes for Reform

The End of an Era

One military family’s end of an era: a caregiver records the timeline and chooses truth, safety, and no contact.

By Betsy Eves August 13, 2025Notes from the Field

Loving Someone With Chronic Suicidal Ideation

Loving someone who doesn’t believe you love them — and who lives with chronic suicidal ideation — isn’t just about crisis lines and quiet prayers. It’s about living in a…

By Betsy Eves May 2, 2025Notes from the Field

Loving Someone Who Wants to Die: What It Looks Like When Love Isn’t Enough

We talk about suicide prevention.We talk about "reaching out for help." But what we don’t talk about enough is what happens behind closed doors —what it’s like loving someone who…

By Betsy Eves April 25, 2025Notes from the Field

The Tension Between Hope and Reality

For so long, I thought caregiving was about standing in the tension between hope and reality. I thought that if I held both with enough strength—hope for healing, reality for…

By Betsy Eves January 4, 2025Notes from the Field

VA Family Support: Addressing the Gaps for Modern Veteran Families

"It starts with a family, not a veteran." That’s the first thing I wish someone had told me before Dave, my husband, began his PTSD treatment program. From the very…

By Betsy Eves November 17, 2024Notes from the Field

The Internal Battle We Face As Caregivers

When you marry into the military, whether you realize it or not, you take on the internal battle we face as caregivers—a role that often feels like service of its…

By Betsy Eves October 12, 2024Notes from the Field